I think it is clear what bothers us may not bother others, and what bothers them may no bother us at all.
The few threads such as this, Lucy, etc have really made me think deeper.
Personally, I have always enjoyed GKG's books and found them to be truly enlightening. I would say that same for HHDL.
The thing that puzzles me is that some forum members would not be sensitive about saying unpleasant things about HHDL but they take offence against that some things being insinuated about GKG. Although I did not find the question offensive or insulting in any way, some members did. There again, shows the differences in others' minds in what they perceive as right and wrong.
I really started thinking about that Dharmapala wrote and even CC in the other threads. Because I saw that they had their valid points.
To me, this much is clear - if it is your Guru, even if some actions of his may appear wrong to others, you will not be happy to hear other people scrutinize him, let alone criticize him. I believe, this is the same for anyone who holds Guru Devotion seriously.
What may appear as crazy or illogical or even bad to outsiders, will not be seen that way to the students of that particular Guru. I can only think that apart from their Guru Devotion, these students would already be in the know of what their Guru's real intention is, motive is and what is the big picture. Where as, outsiders are not privy to any of that information. Hence, outsiders will doubt and scrutinize that Guru's actions.
To those who openly criticize HHDL, they think it is ok because they see that HHDL's actions are wrong. So, it is ok to talk about that. But again, HHDL also has his own legions of students. They would also feel the same stinging pain and anger when they have to hear these unpleasant words about their Guru. It is really no different.
I realise that I cannot bring myself to speak ill of HHDL but I can say that the Ban is bad and terrible. And that I will keep saying. I simply have no wish to speak ill of any Lama. But I can highlight what wrong has been done such as the ban, and how wrong TGIE is about DS being a spirit. I rather focus on that.
If someone's Guru is their only gateway into Dharma, then I have no wish to destroy that gateway. As I have asked myself, would I like that being done to me?
I seriously think not.
So, yes, our ways and thinking may be different - but I do not see why we still cannot work together to promote DS and Dharma. There are many things that we can still do together.
Yes, although I may not be actively protesting in the streets with slogans and banners. But I can and will happily donate to monasteries such as Shar Gaden & Serpom, sponsor DS practitioners & monks, write endless letters to media about how harmful the ban is to innocent people without disparaging anyone, distribute DS brochures & pictures, explain clearly & with logic why DS is not a spirit while maintaining Dharmic decorum.
May be I am still idealistic to think that we still can bridge our differences in view. But I rather remain positive than negative. Also, I strongly believe in Karma and is deathly afraid of bad karma.
Thank you all for helping me see things much deeper and bigger - despite our differences. It is always good to challenge the mind.
What I truly value in all these discussions is that it has helped me in seeing things from the other perspective. I am grateful for that as it aids me in understanding others more.
Have a good night.