I have not heard of any official ceremony that confers the title "Kyabje", which means "the exalted one". I don't know about other traditions, but in Gelugpa, only very few lamas were given the title Kyabje, for example Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche, Kyabje Zong Rinpoche, Kyabje Yongyal Rinpoche...
How to get that title? In Gelugpa that would require very high spiritual attainments, very learned, and great contribution to the Dharma and Sangha.