“Teacher Gautama, there are people who say you advise people not to love. They say you have said that the more a person loves, the more he will suffer and despair. I can see some truth in that statement, but I am unable to find peace with it. Without love, life would seem empty of meaning. Please help me resolve this.
The Buddha looked at the king warmly. "Your majesty, your question is a very good one, and many people can benefit from it. There are many kinds of love. We should examine closely the nature of each kind of love.
Life has a great need of the presence of love, but not the sort of love that is based on lust, passion, attachment, discrimination, and prejudice. Majesty, there is another kind of love, sorely needed, which consists of loving kindness and compassion,”
The crucial intention to study the Dharma is to develop and merge the practice of loving kindness and compassion. In doing so, we are not only the gaining party but also others at the same time. By combining these qualities leads to the possibility of the enlightening and an experience of ongoing happiness within this lifetime; thus, there is a crucial need to develop these qualities. Loving-kindness and compassion are also the cause of accumulating the merit to be born in the higher realms. Therefore, loving-kindness and compassion are karmically very significant, and we should make them the core of whatever Dharma practices we do.