hah. This isn't about an NKT thing or a non NKT thing. It's shouldn't even be about a "Buddhist" thing or a Dalai Lama thing. Surely, it is about just being matured, intelligent, thinking adults and kind people! The "instant animosity" that honeydakini talks about is a great irony in itself; also the preconceived notions and pre-fixed hatred of certain forums that Lineageholder talks about. How can we even call ourselves Buddhists or purport to have a "forum" (which in itself suggests openness and discussions) when we go in with all our blinkers on and guns flaring against those we have already previously decided to dislike. That's like saying, "For the sake of all sentient beings (except Dorje Shugden practitioners), I will gain enlightenment".
Anyhow, while I do agree about it not being necessary to walk into a lion's den (ie not being unnecessarily provocative), I do feel it's necessary to keep talking, even in such spaces. To just skirt around these people and space is only to show that we are afraid of them and to 'allow' them to continue acting and speaking in such bigoted ways. We have as much right to discuss on a Vajrayana Buddhist group as any one else, regardless of our practice! After all, the group isn't just about being for or against Shugden; it is about many other issues and we should have the right to be able to talk freely there on this as well as many, many other issues.