How can we change the common people's negative perceptions towards Guru-Disciple relationship?
How do we cope when people attack us for serving our teachers?
People have negative views because of ignorance. So we need to skilfully tell them about the unique qualities of a Guru/disciple relationship. For those who have not experienced it, i think they cannot relate to it because they can only see it on a mundane level, where it appears as if you have 'given' up all control of your life to someone else, your Guru, but what they don't see is the ultimate benefit which is gained by the student, who should have checked out the Guru to start out with and once committed, goes all the way.
i always find it easier to cope with people's wrong views by focusing on the Nine attitudes of Guru Devotion
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http://www.tonglen.oceandrop.org/9_Attitudes_Guru_Devotion.htm):
1. Be like an obedient son
— Act exactly in accordance with the guru’s advice.
2. Even when maras, evil friends and the like
Try to split you from the guru,
Be like a vajra
— Inseparable forever.
3. Whenever the guru gives you work,
No matter how heavy the burden,
Be like the earth
—Bear it all.
4. When devoting yourself to the guru,
Whatever suffering occurs,
Be like a mountain
—Immovable.
5. Even if you are given all the difficult tasks,
Be like the servant of a king
— Perform them with an undisturbed mind.
6. Abandon pride.
Be like a sweeper
— Hold yourself lower than the guru.
7. No matter how difficult or heavy the burden,
Be like a rope
— Hold the guru’s work with joy.
8. Even when the guru criticizes, provokes or ignores you,
Be like a faithful dog
— Never respond with anger.
9. Be like a boat
— Never be upset to come or go for the guru At any time.