Hi Midakpa
It's very considerate of you to apologise and it's wonderful to see how honest and sincere you are, but you might also be happy to know that I doubt very much that you hurt or offended anyone. It's quite right to express your concerns honestly and openly, especially on such fundamentally important points as: does a spiritual teacher and community who teach the faults of anger, respond to problems by getting angry? Of course if they do then it's unlikely that they could really be reliable.
The truth is no one can know anothers mind, my conclusion is based on faith in Geshe Kelsang and the NKT, this faith has arisen from experience and logical reasoning, relying on Buddha's advice regarding how to rely on the 3 Jewels. This faith gives me confidence that I do know the mind or intention of NKT - but it is a personal experience and I can't force anyone else to share it. I only wanted to describe to you my experience and line of thinking so you would have the opportunity to contemplate it and reach your own conclusion. I am naturally very uncomfortable with stopping people publishing anything. But as the action was legal, and as I have personally witnessed both the falsity of the books main claims and the destruction of people's spiritual lives that these endless smears create, I accept the decision.
Over many years I have checked again and again the teacher, teachings and sangha of the NKT and found them to be reliable and wise. In other words I have faith in the three Jewels and believe that NKT is suitable to embody the three jewels. This experience is something very precious, it is the root of the path and necessary before you can recieve the profound benefits of any Buddhist lineage. Everyone needs to develop it through their own wisdom and experience - guided by Buddha's teachings on reliance and faith. Because of this not everyone follows exactly the same presentation of Dharma. So of course you can always disagree with me or any one else in the NKT - but Buddhas advice is to do so with an open mind which is prepared to change if there are good reasons for doing so. I think you have already demonstrated this quality which shows you are very well qualified to follow a Buddhist path, and I rejoice in that and wish you great happiness and success from your practice!
With very best wishes
Robert