Sorry - i am going off topic again but i wish to address this issue which is sorely needed.
TK, this tension has been going on since over a week with my criticism of the brochure.
Generally, if you read my posts, you might sometimes find an uncompromising, a critical or even cynical attitude, but never direct attacks or a deliberate lack of respect towards other practitionners.
Now, I claim the right to be critical. I don't think we should always congratulate each others. This seems to be very problematic for may buddhists these days...criticism is on the verge of being labelled "unbuddist". However, many of past buddhist masters were uncompromising and critical, let's not forget that. Obviously, I'm not one of them and my uncompromising or critical remarks are often met with direct insults and attacks ad hominem, practices in which I try to avoid.
So if I hurted you in any way TK, then I should obviously apologise: I APOLOGISE, TK, for having offended you!
I hope this helps!
Now, instead of ignoring each other as you requested, I suggest that we read each others' comments more smoothly and be carefull in our replies in the future. This alone will help a lot as I have previously indicated many times.
If you still wish to cut communication, it's ok with me.
However, I DO wish to keep my freedom of thought and maintain my capacity to discriminate between right and wrong and to be able voice my thought about it, that is to disagree, without people always feeling offended by my style.
Yours in Dharma.
Dear Alexis,
As an outsider of this difference of opinion between yourself and TK and with nothing at all to gain (except maybe peace of mind), I would like to share my personal observations. I do find your style very condescending. This may be unintentional in which case, you may wish to contemplate how and why you are giving this impression to at least two people on this forum. If it is intentional, then there is not much more to say.
You do not make direct attacks but indirectly yes. Of course everyone has the right to be critical or skeptical but it is how we convey our differences of opinion... whether it is from a position of superiority or ego, or whether it is from a genuine wish to present your point of view. The undertone is sometimes quite overt. Even your 'apology' to TK as in your above post has a very insincere tone about it, sorry to say.
This forum is intended to be a safe space for Dorje Shugden practitioners to share, discuss and learn. The more senior and the more knowledgeable the practitioners are, the more decorum is expected. I believe respect and humility are signs of great Masters and what we all aspire to.
Please look within because only you know where your motivation is coming from.
Please respect others and if your style is not working, perhaps you might consider changing your style so that if you have valid points of view, it is presented more palatably for everyone. If
how you say something pisses people off before they can even digest
what you are saying, how can that be a good thing?
Please think why you are here - to benefit others or to put people down? There's no need to answer any of the questions i have posted - they are merely requests for you to self-examine.
May the powerful Protector, Dorje Shugden, clear your obstacles and bring you peace,
Kate