hello!
i received this note from 'a friend' in my personal messages, and backwards as i am, have found myself unable to send off my response. So i thought, this is material for interesting discussion anyway - let's put it on the general forum... hope it works!
Hi beggar,
Since you are the global moderator I would like some advice from you.
This website is so extraordinary, and I was so happy because the participants seemed considerate and trying not to be caught so much in the 8 worldly dharmas ... and then, this cruel attack on Alexis. Could you send some advice as global moderator? I wish to be impartial but being a member it will never "sound" impartial. Could you please help?
Thank you so very much
a friend
(here for your reference 'a friend's very interesting post in our guestbook:
Dear friends,
First of all let me greet you all on this day of the coming of Lord Buddha from Ganden Paradise to our world. Secondly, let me tell you that it's been quite awhile that I've been observing this website and it's not without hesitations that I decided to send you a message. May be it's the influence of this most holy day that decided me and, friends in Dharma, please don't be hurt by what I might express here even if it sounds harsh. It's my love for sentient beings and utter devotion to the teachings that force me to write.
Of course, this website is very dear and beautiful, since it contains so many images of our holy King Protector, and so many words that are intended for his praise. I thank you from my heart he/she/they, whoever it is that is doing it, and also those who send messages of support.
Nevertheless, there is in this website an element of wrong view that doesn't in any way serve the holy Dharma nor shows any respect towards the Buddhas in general nor towards our Je Rinpoche nor towards the Protector of his teachings. It doesn't show respect, neither, for the Dalai Lama, contrary to the expressed intentions of the writers, because it perverts entirely the wishes and purposes that he has so clearly expressed and maintained year after year. It doesn't show respect towards the unknown number of victims of the religious persecution unleashed by the Dalai Lama against his fellow citizens, victims whose destiny is either ignored or treated with an extraordinary frivolity. I say frivolity lacking a better word. How to call the behaviour that you show, of praising the one who started years ago such incredible actions against our Deity, our Teachings, our fellow practitioners and to this day doesn't relent but continues such actions? When you praise the Dalai Lama in his actions against the Protector's practitioners, using the reason of skillful means, I don't think you understand the meaning of skillful means. Friends, it is true that the Buddhas can take the appearance of anything, including demons, to benefit sentient beings but when they do it, they never play a double game, they never do something conventionally wrong and at the same time proclaim, or make people to proclaim or even suspect that they are Buddhas, they never show their colours, otherwise they would be destroying the very skillful means they are using. Let's use the example of Devadatta, mentioned in your website. It is a view that I heard mentioning by worthy people, that the evil cousin of Lord Buddha was a somehow realized being that was playing a role to serve the purposes of the Buddha. But you can go and try finding one single piece of scripture or utterance of a Lama saying that what Devadatta did was good, or skillful, or wise. What Devadatta did was horrible and nobody that I know of is going to praise him for his actions. Lord Buddha said he loved Devadatta as much as he loved his own son, but he never said a word of praise, never. Are we more intelligent and wise than the Buddha?
But let's be simple, let's not complicate matters. What you are doing in your website, of praising the Dalai Lama for his actions, interpreting that they are skillful means to spread the Dharma –not less!– is a lokta, a wrong view in relation to the Buddha and to all the Buddhas. Because, friends, what is the main and foremost thing that the Buddhas do for us? They cannot take our bad karma with their holy hands and make it disappear, they cannot do that. Instead, they teach us what to keep and what to abandon. What to do and what not to do. So, friends, if you go about proclaiming that what is wrong is in reality good because it is skillful means, you are attacking, destroying the compassionate actions of our Buddhas. Please, do not do that. For your sake and for the sake of those who are going to acquire such wrong view.
Of course, it is an almost unbearable pain to see the one who we used to contemplate as the beacon of Dharma, we poor Westerners who put our faith there, we poor Tibetans who worshipped our leader, do things that are not in accord with Dharma. It is terribly painful. Awful. And it feels good to find justifications, it helps soothe our pain. But that is not the way to go about it.
The way to go about it is not to judge the person, the Dalai Lama. We have to be very clear about his actions, but even mentally we have to remain silent about him. Friends, only the Buddha is able to judge a person, and this is true both for the positive and the negative. You cannot condemn him, but neither can you justify him, otherwise you would be proclaiming yourselves a Buddha.
Also, if we suffered from his actions, we have our most holy teachings of Lojong, and we can remember our Geshe Langri Tangpa and say of the Dalai Lama, he is my utmost Mahayana teacher, because he is teaching me by this suffering he inflicts on me, that I did the same to others in the past. And because he is thus helping me to eliminate my bad karma. This Kadampa view is perfect, it doesn't judge the person, only the effects his actions have on me. And these I can choose, and I have a perfect instruction for choosing, the Lojong.
Enough. It's late, and I said already too many words. Thank you to those who had the patience for reading so far.
May your highest purpose become true, for the benefit of our beloved sentient beings, and may all things be good and happy and wonderful and perfect and joyous and you name it ... for all.
Sarva mangalam. )
dear friend,
one of the main points that what we try to promote here to our readers and ourselves (who are not enlightened) on this website is to promote harmony, independent investigation and avoiding extremes, which we hope very much will lead us and others to a deeper and valid practice based on refuge and mindfulness of karma with a mahayana attitude. I, as an example, am much less learned than you or alexis or david, and i can't quote many fine points from scripture. What i rely on more are pragmatic implications of views, concepts, teachings. If it leads to more determination to counter the self-cherishing mind, if it leads to a more constructive view of what arises, it's good as far as i'm concerned. For example, i personally resonate much more with what david wrote regarding tulkus, because i've experienced the immeasurable benefit they bring, and i would therefore emphasize the 'good' sides and see the system as inherently extremely beneficial, and so if i meet a tulku it is with the deepest respect for the many lives they have dedicated to benefiting sentient beings, rather than to think, is she real? Did he perhaps go off the track? Is she wearing a diamond ring a sign of attachment? And so on. The forums are filled with pencil kings who tear down the core of the vajrayana - guru devotion and holding commitments - by telling the world that titles mean nothing etc and voice their ego self-defenses by doubting everyone who sits on a teacher's chair on general principle in the name of 'checking the lama', but what's the gain? It's so obvious that they themselves want to sit on the throne but without doing the work, without giving up their lives.
My own teacher always says, tulkus with or without title can be measured by their ongoing practice of helping and guiding others, absorbing sufferings for others without any personal motivation and without hope for reward - so yes, titles are ultimately just titles, but do we focus on something's positive potential which opens doors, or the other way around? If a tulku is not stable, not up to the task, too young (in terms of reincarnations) to prevail in the world we live in, we will all notice soon enough and that's that and then our karma with that person's done and we get a chance to practice lojong and move on. If on the other hand, because a basically doubting mind predominates, we meet a precious teacher and because our practice of pure view and devotion is not strong, we go off thinking, I better wait till i meet an unmistaken living Buddha, there slams the door to dharma and it's very unlikely we'll meet another opportunity like that.
So, reading alexis letter we felt that's great ground for discussion and debate and encouraged it, and i'm really happy to see that people who are much more qualified than me responded with many points who made me think and contemplate and check against my practical experience, as the idea of this forum is not that we play god and tell everyone what's what, but to provide a platform for exchange of knowledge and experience.
Of course it would be great to have definite answers to every question, but i simply am not at that level, and i don't think many of us are, so it would be like saying, ultimately everything is dharmadatu - happy now? Therefore, views can not be separated from our practice, and even if someone can quote a thousand sutras and display lasersharp logic, but is devoid of compassion, will it help? To answer your question, i didn't perceive an attack on alexis, but a very sharp pointer which we can all apply to ourselves - are we hiding behind concepts, using scriptural reasoning to get our own point across, and so on? If not, even better, but always good to check. So thanks alexis AND david.
But let's stop a minute and look at the word 'attack.' In your letter in our guest book you pointed out our wrong view of calling HH the Dalai Lama's policy regarding Dorje Shugden as skillful means. Now if we adopt your point as it is it leads directly to the extreme view that His Holiness has failed us, betrayed us, is not compassionate, not wise, and of no benefit, because if it is true, in your point there is no room for any others. You are really attacking His Holiness and asking us to believe he has become a demon, much like others are attacking us about our dharmapala.
I can't help but quote a little myself here - "DON'T LOSE YOUR FAITH IN HIS HOLINESS; DON'T LOSE YOUR FAITH IN DORJE SHUGDEN." What Kyabje Trijang Dorje Chang has said prophetically is really the content of this entire website in a nutshell. I need to ask you, how can you doubt that His Holiness is wonderful and holy when you can take one look and see how many thousands and millions he inspires, consoles, uplifts, leads to the Dharma? You would also be doubting what Dorje Shugden said so many times! Why would all-seeing dharmapala always call His Holiness the HOLDER OF THE WHITE LOTUS? Why would he say, Keep His Holiness in one hand and me in the other?
You may have suffered much due to His Holiness' (or rather the ones he has to please and pacify) policy, and many others have, and i'm not so advanced or cold just to say - Well that's your karma. But how many are benefiting from his teachings on compassion?
And i feel you yourself gave the answer in your letter, which is to apply the holy Lojong teachings. And, if there's any definite answer to anything, this is it. One word - Lojong. Or three words - Lamrim - Lojong - Mahamudra.
Thank you for reminding us, and a very good day to you.
yours, beggar